The Fog of Grief

November 1969 Last Wednesday was the 54th anniversary of the largest political demonstration in American history. Organized by the National Mobilization against the War in Vietnam, commonly known as the MOBE, the protest drew half a million people to the nation’s capital. They marched from the White House (Nixon’s “secret plan to end the war”Continue reading “The Fog of Grief”

The Wrongness of Being Black

Photo by Ryoji Iwata on Unsplash Over glasses of wine at a summery party, a bright, friendly woman asked about my memoir, White Wife/Blue Baby. She knew I’d married across the color line — the phrase “white wife” doesn’t leave much room for doubt. But she was unfamiliar with the phrase I’d used in the title’s other half. I toldContinue reading “The Wrongness of Being Black”

White Wife/Blue Baby

I’m using the title White Wife/Blue Baby for my forthcoming memoir. When the phrase first hit me, my psychological hair stood on end. I married across the color line in ‘68, and our daughter was born not getting enough oxygen, two facts with ambulance sirens attached to them. When I first referred to my titleContinue reading “White Wife/Blue Baby”

Today April 4 MLK’s Anniversary

Today April 4 MLK’s Anniversary Fifty-five years ago today I found out that Martin Luther King had been shot when I heard someone snickering and snorting. A man was walking by the hospital room of the friend I’d come to visit. We could hear the crackle of the transistor radio the guy was listening to,Continue reading “Today April 4 MLK’s Anniversary”

Interracial Marriage, Updated

In what CNN described as a ‘landmark bipartisan vote” the Senate passed a bill Tuesday protecting same-sex marriage. Hooray for a preemptive strike! The bill also protects interracial marriage, something we thought was already entirely safe given the Supreme Court’s 1967 Loving vs. Virginia decision. But now we have an anything-goes Supreme Court. Who knowsContinue reading “Interracial Marriage, Updated”

Coming to a Bookstore near You!

The good news – the stomp-and-yell good news — is that my memoir, White Wife/Blue Baby, has been accepted for publication. When will it come out, everyone asks. It’s too early to know.  But it’s in the queue at All Things That Matter Press. (https://allthingsthatmatterpress.com/) When I got the ATTM email message stating, “We wantContinue reading “Coming to a Bookstore near You!”

Blue Baby

My infant daughter died fifty-three years ago last week. She was born not getting enough oxygen, which made her lips purply, the way kids look when they’ve stayed in the pool too long. Writing about Carolyn in my forthcoming memoir, White Wife/Blue Baby, has finally quieted my heart. After she died, her father and IContinue reading “Blue Baby”

White Girl Mistakes: The Gun

The doorbell finally rang. I’d been waiting, hurt, while my entirely Midwestern baked chicken and Idaho potatoes dinner cooled in the kitchen. I was going to definitely tell Emmon how I felt. But when I swung the door open, he came in hurriedly with hunched shoulders and without meeting my eyes. Sitting on the edgeContinue reading “White Girl Mistakes: The Gun”